Listen, most of us wouldn’t say no to a little Valentine’s Day excitement, right? A bouquet of flowers just big enough to make us blush, dinner at our favourite restaurant (or better yet, a lovingly prepared home-cooked meal), a little Paradise by the Dashboard Light (woo! Meatloaf!) blaring through the speakers…
Yes, there’s a lot to love about love, but the simple fact is that most of us will go through Valentine’s Day as a single lady at some point in our career as an adult. That’s why I’ve put together this (incredibly helpful) little guide to the most soppy day of the year. Here goes…
1. Do Not Send Yourself Flowers
It can happen to anyone; there you are, strolling past your favourite florist on your way to the bank when you see something lovely out of the corner of your eye. ‘Surely those can’t be frilled tulips?’, you think to yourself. All of a sudden, BANG, you’re handing over some cash, addressing an envelope to yourself and signing a card from ‘anonymous’. Awkward.
2. Don’t Throw Anything at the Couple Snogging in the Foyer
There’s no denying that it can be tempting, but really, how are you going to explain yourself? “Sorry Officer, I just hate love.” Keep your hands in your pockets and walk on by my friend.
3. Wear Your Best Underwear
It’s a fact: wearing special underwear puts a spring in your step and a sparkle in your eye. Noone else needs to know about it – unless you want them to of course – but it’ll probably give you the little extra boost of confidence and self control you need to avoid that altercation with the foyer couple.
4. Remember that the grass isn’t always greener
Sure, sometimes being single can be tough. But you know what, so can relationships! For every night you spend curled on the couch watching The Notebook alone, your poor coupled up pals have probably washed 100s of pairs of scummy boxers and picked up thousands of dirty socks from the bathroom floor. Yuck.
5. Remember that noone ever found happiness at the bottom of an icecream tub
It’s public knowledge that I’ve got a bit of a sweet tooth, but I’ve learned the hard way that a tub of icecream for one is usually better in theory than in practice. By all means indulge in dessert – heck, have two desserts if you really want to – but do it for the right reasons. Punishing yourself for being single on Valentine’s Day AGAIN? Wrong reason. Just really really love salted caramel gelato? Right reason!
7. Love your friends
You’re surrounded by special people, so why should Valentine’s Day be about just one of them? Call your friends and family and let them know you love them – today and every day!
8. Remember that it’s just another day!
You probably don’t lament being single on the other 364 days of the year, so why should Valentine’s Day be any different? Get out of bed, put your best underwear on (preferably with another layer over the top) and own your day! You are in charge of the way you feel, so make today a good one.
Happy Valentine’s Day Team, sending you oodles and oodles of love!
atwinthing33 says
I hear you. I am in the same boat! I secretly hope every year that I will get some flowers from a random person other than my students. I teach and I get sad that my only admirers are 6 year old boys. For the first time I was told, “I love you…” and it was from a second grader. It sucks. I confess I wrote in for our city contest “5 dates in 5 days.” I was picked and got to go on my first date in forever. I feel like a complete idiot. There is this stupid part of me that is hoping he really actually liked me and I will hear back from him…not that he was just doing it for publicity. It sucks. Hang in there. I will cross my fingers it happens for you. I should be happy I had a date, even if it was a contest.
LazyGirlFitness says
Ohhhhh I think it’s fabulous that a second grader told you he loves you! Children are so honest and beautiful, so you can be sure that he meant it from the bottom of his heart!
I hope you’re doing ok, and that your Valentine’s Day was a good one. And if you don’t hear back from that guy – well, he wasn’t the one for you!